When it rains, it pours!

Well a few things have been going on around here since my last post. I know I have been slack again.

Son-shine has had more tests done. The paediatrician said that he is suffering from Hypercalcuria. Which is an increase in Calcium levels, which could be the main reason for his Kidney Stone. She sent him for more blood tests to confirm her suspicions. She also sent him for updated Ultrasound and also a Spinal X-ray just to be on e safe side.

She also insists that he see a Dietician which is early Dec. his Paediatric Surgeons appointment has been set for 21st Feb 2014.

Well while watching the Ultrasound being performed it looks like he may have formed another kidney stone. This time in his right kidney.

Add to that the dreaded Gastro bug has hit our house although it has only affected my boy who has been vomiting since 2:30am Wednesday morning.

Our next paed appointment is 19th Dec so we will see what happens then. Well for now I’m going to start dinner.  Homemade Chicken Carbornara… I will post the recipe  over the weekend if anyone wants it. Just comment if you do else I will keep it a secret a little longer :)

The Versatile Blogger Award

versatileblogger111The Versatile Blogger Award.

I had never heard of it until the other day when I received a comment on my post The problem with labels.  One of my followers let me know in a comment that they had nominated me for the VBA’s.

An honor to say the least.  I really thought people had stopped reading my blog due to my hopeless ability to constantly “blog”.  So head over to Perceptions of Reality and check out her blog and say hi from me.

So what is this Versatile Blogger Award?  I’m still not 100% sure but the rules (taken from The Versatile Blogger blog) are as follows:

If you are nominated, you’ve been awarded the Versatile Blogger award.

  •  Thank the person who gave you this award. That’s common courtesy.

  •  Include a link to their blog. That’s also common courtesy — if you can figure out how to do it.

  •  Next, select 15 blogs/bloggers that you’ve recently discovered or follow regularly. ( I would add, pick blogs or bloggers that are excellent!)

  •  Nominate those 15 bloggers for the Versatile Blogger Award — you might include a link to this site.

  •  Finally, tell the person who nominated you 7 things about yourself.

Easy right? Hmmm not sure but I will give it my best shot.  Now I read each of these blogs for one reason or another. Some have a huge following some only a handful of followers so I will take these awards as more of a form or extra publicity to the small blogs & a way of screaming like a groupie to the larger blogs.

And the nominees are

Alexis Found Robert on PlentyOfFish – although this blog no longer is updated (last updated January 18, 2010 at 1:56 pm), this was the blog that started me off.  I was constantly checking back to follow the story and am so curious as to what ever happened to Alexis & Robert.  I hope one day the author will come back to WordPress and continue the story.

Lipstick and Playdates – about a single mum, her daughter, her life & dating. It is funny, insightful & my favourite is always Wordless Wednesday.

20 Lines A Day – a community of differing writers, photographers & poets. I cannot just pick one piece as too many have left impressions on me.

Nemesis Retribution – a blog about one persons journey through abuse as a child.  I particularly liked Walk a mile in my shoes. I double dog dare you! which describes her depression and how she sees herself as a survivor & not a victim.

ByzantineFlowers – this blog is about natural therapies, remedies, gardening etc. I love reading the recipes and trying them at home.

Bargain Budget Baking – a new blog just starting out for budget conscious families with some great recipes & tips.

The Dachshund Blog – one couples love for their pet dachshunds and the adventures they have.

Snarkysnatch – Now this is a R18 blog so be mindful about that when visiting.  It is funny & eye-opening and something different to your everyday blog.

George. Jessie. Love – the heartwarming blog by a mum about her child’s transgender journey.

Mandy Ferry – This is a blog which I read a couple of times a week. It is fun, insightful, heartwarming, informative & just plain awesome.

JM Randolph, accidentalstepmom – One woman’s adventures a step-parent.

Bucket List Publications – Travel, Adventure & completing the ultimate Bucket List.

The Fancy Pants Report –  Everything fashion.

SweetRevelations – A sweet food journal.

The Parenting Passageway – as in the title it is a blog about parenting.

Now for the last part of the rules I must tell the above 15 blog nominees 7 things about myself.

  1. I have lived in 18 towns.
  2. I think tattoo’s on people are sexy.
  3. I fully believe I will never find anyone to marry.
  4. I will one day travel through Europe & Asia.
  5. I love to draw.
  6. I am a super loud person
  7. I have a terrible temper when I feel I have been wronged.

So there we go. It may have taken me 3 hours to compose this list but I have done it.  Now to let those I nominated that I have done so.  Please enjoy and let them know I sent you over :)

When it’s not all about you…

I’m talking about the Princess.

She is always left out or missing out or something along those lines.  She is always having to take a back seat while Son-shine has his appointments or while Miss R is having her down times.

So many times we have had to cancel plans because her brother is having another aggressive outburst or her sister is having an extremely sad day while still grieving.

When she is told “No, I can’t buy you that $2 toy because I have to buy your brothers medication”.  It seems to be a constant disappointment to her that she is missing out on life. So she does the only thing she knows how to do…

Seek out attention… Any attention is good attention when you get no attention…

I know when she is older that she will understand why she missed out so much.  It hurts me every time when I have to tell her No over the simplest requests.  Sometimes it is purely because I have just ran out of steam.

I have found an organisation that supports Siblings.  They have a day trip coming up that Miss T is going on. No brothers, no sisters, no missing out.  Just a day for those kids who have brothers & sisters that have a disability.

Being the “normal one” must be hard when you do not fully understand your siblings disabilities.  Many of those are what is known as Invisible Illnesses.

How many times as an adult have you had trouble trying to explain an Invisible Illness to another adult?  Now imagine trying to explain that to a child using terms they understand.

Heck, even I have trouble understanding it and I’m a Mum, a sister, a cousin, a friend & a sufferer of an Invisible Illness.

All I can do is just keep trying to spend as many “little amounts of time” I can with her.  Even if it is just a conversation while I cook dinner or when I pick them up from school to ask her first how her day was.

It is times like this that being a single parent is hard.  When there is 2 parents you can organise more time with each child while the other takes the rest, but when you are on your own you miss out on that tiny luxury.

Maybe we need to create an awareness day for the siblings.  Why not, there are awareness days for all the invisible illnesses but not for the forgotten siblings.

I know I’m ranting and going off on all sorts of tangents here but how many times have you gone up to the parent of a child and asked them how they are? How many times do you attend events for kids with disabilities and given the parent all the attention? What about the sibling who is “normal”?  Next time you visit a friend who has a child with an invisible illness ask the sibling how their day is.  Next time you are at a family gathering ask the sibling or the cousin or the aunt how they are or how they are coping because it affects them too.

Yesterday I organised a play-date for Miss T so that she had a friend that understands what she is going through.  Someone else who is a sibling of and invisible illness.  It was a great day.  Even Master J had a good time (albeit spending time on his own).

Sibling 1 vs Invisible Illness 0


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